Classes
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Drop in Coaching for Parents of Tweens and Teens:
Join me on Wednesdays from 4:00pm – 5:30pm for coaching and support on real life scenarios using principles of Nonviolent Communication, brain science, and my understanding of how teens are impacted by cultural messages, social media and the onslaught of input endemic to our times. All topics welcome. This is offered as a drop in, and on a gift economy basis, meaning every participant is invited to contribute what is doable and joyful for them. This is an inclusive and welcoming space to discuss strategies that bring more peace, collaboration, mutual empowerment and understanding to our family relationships.
Where: In town, Durango.
When: Weds 4pm – 5:30pm, Oct 5th – Nov 9th
Cost: Donation based
RSVP: please email me at rachelbturiel@gmail.com to sign up, ask questions, or receive weekly reminder emails.
Parent/Caregiver Drop in Coaching
Join me on Tuesdays from 12pm – 1pm for coaching and support using principles of Nonviolent Communication to approach parenting and caring for children. All topics welcome. This is an inclusive and welcoming space to discuss strategies that bring more peace, collaboration, mutual empowerment and understanding to our family relationships.
Where: Christ the King Church, 495 Florida Rd, Durango, CO 81301 (play space for children provided).
When: Tuesday 12pm – 1pm, August 30th – Sept 27th
Cost: Donation based
RSVP: please email me at rachelbturiel@gmail.com to sign up, or if you would like to receive weekly reminder emails
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2021 SUMMER, IN PERSON, DROP IN CLASSES FOR PARENTS/CAREGIVERS
When: Tuesdays 4pm – 5:30
Where: Gazebo at Needham Elementary on West 3rd and Weston. Durango. (north side of building. Park on West 3rd ave and walk west to gazebo).
Who: Anyone who engages with children
Cost: Offered on gift economy (pay what feels right to you)
RSVP: to rachelbturiel@gmail.com Come to one class, come to all. Whatever works for you. Bring a friend! (email me about the possibility of childcare)
June 22nd: Why do Children Do the %^$@! things they do? Children are not naturally manipulative or demanding. They may learn unskillful strategies to meet needs for connection, mattering, autonomy and more. Together, we will explore the ‘why’ behind challenging behavior, leading us towards effectively and compassionately collaborating on more life-serving strategies.
June 29th: Empathy as a First Response When our kid says that thing that triggers us, we jump to correct or defend, when trying to understand what’s important to our kids (and our own triggers) would serve our relationship better. When we cultivate skills of empathy we can meet all behavior and expression in a way that brings clarity to what’s really driving our children while engendering more mutual trust.
July 6th: How to Talk so Kids Will Listen Kids can smell a parent with an agenda a mile away, no matter how you present yourself. If your children tune out when you talk or get suspicious when you begin sharing your perspective, come learn ways of expressing vulnerably without blame or shame.
July 13th: Self-empathy for clarity, spaciousness, wisdom and creativity. When we are in distress we tend to reach for patriarchal tools of reward and punishment. Self empathy tunes us into the grief and longings that are present, bringing more clarity and power to our worlds.
July 20th: How to Repair when we mess up. Messing up is inevitable. Acknowledging our impact brings trust, connection, modeling and closeness.
July 27th: Perspective Taking: understanding behavior and finding compassion. Practice seeing things from your child’s perspective, which is a unique amalgamation of their own wiring plus cultural and societal messages about gender, success, popularity and more.
August 3rd: Empathy practice. Join us for focused empathy practice, in which we’ll use tools of nonviolent communication to try and understand what is driving our children’s words and/or behavior and how to respond in a way that builds trust and brings clarity.
August 10th: Empathy practice. Join us for focused empathy practice, in which we’ll use tools of nonviolent communication to try and understand what is driving our children’s words and/or behavior and how to respond in a way that builds trust and brings clarity.
Making Life Work NVC Practice Group
8 Wednesdays, April 7th – May 26th 2021; online, 3:30pm – 5pm MST. classes will be recorded for registered students to view.
Sliding scale $200 – $250 (25% off when you bring a friend)
to register, email me at sanjuandrive(at)frontier(dot)net
Do you long to say what you mean in a way that’s clear and connecting? Do you wish to find a way for everyone (in the family, relationship, workplace, room) to converge happily on decisions? Do you want to find a way to make room for other people’s preferences without giving up on yourself? Do you want your voice to be heard without having to shout? Do you want to decode other people’s behavior, messages, expressions in a way that brings understanding and connection? In this class we will use the amazing, new to the public online curriculum Making Life Work. For You. For Everyone. No Exceptions created by Miki Kashtan to find more liberation in our everyday lives. This nonviolent communication class will be highly experiential, practice-based and designed to replace old patterns with doable strategies that care for all.
The Home Revolution Immersion Program
for parents of tweens and teens
Tuesdays, March 9th – May 25th 2021 (12 weeks) 4pm – 5:30 MST. Online. classes will be recorded for registered students to view. To register, email me at sanjuandrive(at)frontier(dot)net
The purpose of an immersion program is to offer a focused, transformative practice within supportive community so we can actually shift the deeply engrained patterns handed down to us from our parents and the dominant culture, which suggests two pathways to dealing with parenting challenges: 1) Children are unreasonable and impulsive and need threats and rewards to be cooperative. 2) This stage will pass, just grit your teeth and bear it out.
Using principles of Nonviolent Communication, we will explore a different pathway. One in which all feelings are welcome, and we model and encourage true authentic expression rather than the option our gender constructs have given us (male:) burying feelings or (female:) acting them out; in which we take responsibility for our feelings and reactions and normalize asking for what would make life more wonderful; in which we resolve conflicts completely, bringing us closer in the process and into greater mutual understanding; in which we speak honestly without judgment or blame to our tweens and teens, and receive their feedback without defensiveness; in which everyone’s needs matter and we make true collaborative decisions that we all can live with. These practices move us forward into more honesty, connection, trust, and true collaboration.
In this immersion you will learn to:
- set limits with love
- move away from punishment and reward, and towards true collaboration
- develop a quality of empathy that can hold all painful feelings
- speak honestly with care and kindness
- give effective feedback that others can hear
- hear the essence of our children’s feedback to us no matter the package
- increase capacity to find solutions that work for all
- mourn in community what we can’t change to free up space for creativity and wisdom
- model the skills of dialogue we wish to see in our homes
Cost for 12 week immersion program = sliding scale $250 – $300. Payment plans available.
What past participants to Home Revolution Immersion Program have said:
“I can now choose how to to respond to people and events in my life in a way that comes from a place of empowerment. I’m no longer victim to my emotions and can reflect on them without judgment. I have learned self-empathy. I learned so much–slowing down, really listening, making observations, realizing there is a need related to every feeling and knowing how to make a request for change are all new tools in my box. Thank you, Rachel!” – Nicole Garland
Delving into the principles of non-violent communication revised my default communication style. Your modeling and our practicing was beneficial and I certainly could use more of both! – Mary Robins
I appreciate these sessions so much! They give me support and tools to help me navigate myself and my relationships. Life has more meaning through the lens of NVC. – Joy Kilpatrick
Questioning Consumption
The Home Revolution Immersion Program
for parents of tweens and teens
October – January (Approx 12 weeks with 18 hours of in-person weekly instruction). We will meet outside weekly for 1.5 hours in person as long as the weather allows, and then online. Meeting time TBD by group – limited to 8 participants (5 spots claimed)
The purpose of an immersion program is to offer a focused, transformative practice within supportive community so we can actually shift the deeply engrained patterns handed down to us from our parents and the dominant culture, which suggests two pathways to dealing with parenting challenges: 1) Children are unreasonable and impulsive and need threats and rewards to be cooperative. 2) This stage will pass, just grit your teeth and bear it out.
Using principles of Nonviolent Communication, we will explore a different pathway. One in which all feelings are welcome, and we model and encourage true authentic expression rather than the option our gender constructs have given us (male:) burying feelings or (female:) acting them out; in which we take responsibility for our feelings and reactions and normalize asking for what would make life more wonderful; in which we resolve conflicts completely, bringing us closer in the process and into greater mutual understanding; in which we speak honestly without judgment or blame to our tweens and teens, and receive their feedback without defensiveness; in which everyone’s needs matter and we make true collaborative decisions that we all can live with. These practices move us forward into more honesty, connection, trust, and true collaborative decision making.
In this immersion you will learn to:
- set limits with love
- move away from punishment and reward, and towards true collaboration
- develop a quality of empathy that can hold all painful feelings
- speak honestly with care and kindness
- give effective feedback that others can hear
- hear the essence of our children’s feedback to us no matter the package
- increase capacity to find solutions that work for all
- mourn in community what we can’t change to free up space for creativity and wisdom
- model the skills of dialogue we wish to see in our homes
Cost for 12 week immersion program = $250. 10% off if you sign up by Sept 25th. Payment plans available.
What people are saying about my work.
To ask questions or sign up, email me at sanjuandrive(at)frontier(dot)net
The Revolution Starts at Home – 2 free classes, in person!
Tues, Aug 4th 3pm – 4:30: How to listen so kids will talk
Tues, Aug 11th 3pm – 4:30pm: How to talk so kids will listen.
Connected Parenting for Parents of Teens and Tweens
Connected Parenting through Unpredictable Times
Online, via zoom
Class 3: Making requests and agreements. When we know how to motivate our children through care and connection we can move out of the demoralizing and ineffective paradigm of threats, bribes, and rewards to control behavior. In this class we’ll practice making requests that move relationships forward, while finding mutually satisfying solutions that honor everyone’s needs, so that agreements are more likely to be kept.
FALL 2019 CLASSES:
EFFECTIVE DIALOGUE FOR CHALLENGING TIMES
a 2 day workshop
Nov 2nd 10am – 4pm; Nov 3rd 1pm – 5pm
@ Dolores, CO Public Library
These are challenging times. Most of us weren’t given the skills to navigate conflict in a way that maintains everyone’s dignity while striving for solutions that work for all. We often reach for blame, shame, punishment, and power-over to “win” conflicts when tools of listening, perspective-taking, dialoguing, and sharing power can wrap relationships in connection and trust like a security blanket. In times that are uncertain, building resilient relationships is some of the truest security I know.
Join us in this 2 day workshop in which we’ll use principles of nonviolent communication to become more effective communicators, bridge-builders, truth-tellers and peace makers.
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Connected Parenting: the revolution starts at home
Raising children is challenging and wondrous. Often, I’ve wished that the pure love we have for them was enough to bolster them through life’s hardships. But love alone doesn’t always translate into clarity in how to respond to their disappointments, anger and jealousy in a way that builds compassion, wisdom, and resilience. Nor is it a roadmap in navigating the conflicts that inevitably arise in a household. Join me bringing simple wisdom, brain science, doable practices, and principles of nonviolent communication to the children in your life so that family life becomes more joyful and connected.
In this class for parents, grandparents and caregivers of children, we will explore:
* understanding what’s behind tantrums, eye-rolling, “sassiness” and other challenging behaviors and how to respond in a way that brings connection, togetherness and clarity.
* navigating disagreements so that everyone feels heard and valued.
* creating willingness and cooperation amongst family members without threats, bribes, or rewards.
* replacing dynamics of blame and judgment with tools for connection.
* standing in the fire of emotion (yours and theirs) in a way that supports resilience.
Classes will be held at Manna Soup Kitchen upstairs conference room, 1100 Avenida Del Sol, Durango, CO
Dates: Wednesdays, Sept 25th, Oct 2nd, 9th, 16th from 5:30 – 7:30.
Cost $120. 20% discount for couples. Scholarships available.
For questions or to register: sanjuandrive@frontier.net
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Say What You Mean*, a communication workshop for parents and children
Tuesday October 22nd, 5:30 – 7:30 at Manna Soup Kitchen Conference Room, 1100 Avenida Del Sol, Durango, CO
Despite our best intentions sometimes when conflict arises in families we revert to habitual patterns: getting defensive, going on the attack, giving up our voice.
In this workshop parents will practice pausing and listening for the message our children are trying to deliver behind any words they use.
Parents and children will practice speaking what is true for them—fears, frustration, dreams, hopes—without blame. The more we can speak our truth and listen deeply the more we will build the trust and connection necessary to solve problems together.
In this 2 hour workshop parents and children will learn to:
*express themselves honestly without alienating others.
*create willingness and collaboration amongst family members without threats, bribes, rewards.
*hear what’s important to others even if their message carries blame and judgment.
*ask for what they want in a way others can hear.
This class is offered in partnership with the La Plata Family Center. Cost is $30 and open to one parent and one child from each family ages 11 and up. A light dinner will be served. Space is limited. To register: sanjuandrive@frontier.net
*Say What You Mean is the title of a great communication book, used with permission by the author, Oren Jay Sofer.
2019 summer single series NVC classes
Monday, July 1st: Transforming Judgments Into Wisdom
Monday, July 22nd: Empathy Intensive
2019 Winter/Spring Nonviolent Communication Classes
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Fall 2018 Nonviolent Communication Classes
Bring your real life challenges to the NVC Lab, where using the principles of nonviolent communication we’ll explore how to meet life in a way that cares for everyone’s needs, maintains dignity for all, creates more willingness in ourselves and others, and looks for creative solutions that all parties can say ‘yes’ to. Suitable for people who’ve taken a prior class with me or have some experience with nonviolent communication.
*express themselves honestly without alienating others.*create willingness and collaboration amongst family members without threats, bribes, rewards.*hear what’s important to others even if their message carries blame and judgment.*find mutually satisfying solutions that take everyone’s needs into account.*ask for what you want! (including empowering youth to communicate what is important to them in a way they can be heard by adults).
Nonviolent Communication Classes, Spring/Summer 2018
For more information or to register, email me at sanjuandrive(at)frontier(dot)net
Nonviolent Communication Classes, Winter 2018
Each five week session is $100.
For more information or to register, email me at sanjuandrive(at)frontier(dot)net
Spring/Summer classes 2015
Art of Mindfulness Summer Camp for Kids
Fermented Drinks: Kombucha and Ginger Ale
Harry Potter discussion and writing class for kids ages 9-13.
UPCOMING CLASSES:
One day comprehensive Hide Tanning class using traditional brain-tanning methods. Taught by Dan. Details TBA.
Hunting Skills for teenagers, taught by Dan. Details TBA
– email if interested
Yoga/Writing Retreat
Taught by Joy Kilpatrick and Rachel Turiel
Friday February 27th, 6:30pm – 8:30pm, Saturday February 28th, 9am – 1pm, Sunday March 1st, 9am – 1pm. Cost: $160, Register by February 18th: $130, or register with a friend and take a $10 discount each. Organic, GF snack buffet included. Space is limited. THREE SPOTS LEFT
Yoga unifies the body and mind, opening us to our deepest insights, while writing provides a container for this wisdom. Practicing yoga and writing together ignites our creative fire and liberates our authentic voice so we can transcend the inner critic and delve deeper. In this retreat there are alternating sessions of writing and yoga. Suitable to all levels of experience.
Feedback from past Yoga/Writing Retreats:
Children’s Creative Writing Class: 4th/5th grade
Art of Fermentation
Children’s Creative Writing Class: Middle School
Bow-making Workshop
To sign up e-mail me at sanjuandrive(at)frontier(dot)net
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